“Ah, but we saw them last week.” If you’re anything like me, then you’ve said this many times in the past when making plans for the weekend or your next dinner party.
The premise, of course, is that we should diversify the time we spend with people because we only have so much time. And, besides, won’t it be weird if we ask someone to hang out too often?
But there is another side to this coin. There is the side that says, “Oh no, if we spend too much time with them we might let them in.” They might become our people. The people we depend on and care for and expect to be there for us.
And when we make that kind of commitment to a person or a group of people, we put ourselves on the line. We put our emotions on the line. We put our trust on the line.
What would life look like if you put your complete trust in a group of 5 or 10 or 25 or even 50 people? How would your life improve if you had 25 people you could call on a moment’s notice and trust to be there for you?
Perhaps the question we should ask ourselves each time we make plans is not, “we just saw them, who else could we call?” but rather “what can we do that we haven’t done together lately to have fun as a group?”
What if plans were, by their very nature, inclusive of the crew you care most about and trust? What if we are meant to live in tribes? And what if our fear is holding us back from building our tribe?
Who is your tribe? What if you went all in for them?
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