Essays

Operating from a mindset of generosity creates so many more opportunities than operating from a mindset of selfishness and scarcity. I’ve seen this over and over again in my life, and yet I still see so many people fighting tooth and nail to find tricks to get noticed. What if you just stopped trying to […]

It turns out there is more than one way to be the odd one out. While smoking might make you the odd one out by subjecting everyone around you to selfish decision-making, there are others choosing to stand out by standing up for something else entirely. While [name your irresponsible clothier here] continues business as […]

There are fifty people sitting on a patio. There is one person happily smoking. When forty-nine people are subjected to one person’s decision to smoke, whose responsibility are the side effects? We know unequivocally that smoking kills and second-hand smoke does too. But that doesn’t make the smoker stop to think, even for a second. […]

I could say: 68% of the conversations we have are mostly meaningless, chatting about the weather and what we had for breakfast. Another 27% percent of conversations are mildly interesting or important, covering things like family, work, and vacation. And then there’s the 5% of conversations that actually have an impact on everyone involved — […]

Natural time horizons are just that: natural. We all have a lens through which we view the world. It makes it easier for some to see 15–20 years in the future, while others more naturally see just 6–12 months down the road. There are advantages to each view, of course, but the real trick is […]

According to Ira Byock, the four things we say before we die or to someone we love who is going to die: Thank you. I love you. Forgive me. I forgive you. Thank you For everything you’ve done and do for me. For the light you shed in the world. For the influence you have […]