“My name is Barrett Brooks. I live in Portland, Oregon with my wife and two dogs. I work at a software company. Really happy to be here.”
That’s my standard “humble” self-introduction when I’m not familiar with the people I’m being introduced to. It doesn’t do my work justice. It doesn’t make me more connected to the people in the room.
Introducing myself is one of my least favorite activities. I hear this from many of my friends and colleagues too. It’s so hard to walk the fine line between honestly representing your work and coming across as bragging.
There’s a powerful shortcut to help everyone feel seen and to fast-track meaningful connections. It’s especially powerful when you’re the host.
The trick: take the time to introduce each person yourself in an honest and flattering way.
Say the things about the people in attendance that would be hard to say about yourself. Brag on them. Share what you love about them. Open up about what they mean to you and why the other people in the room are going to love them.
“Shawn Blanc is one of the most genuine people I know. On the surface, you might think he writes about productivity and technology. In reality, Shawn writes about living and full life. He helps people love accordingly to their deepest values and beliefs. He does all of this under the guise of productivity and tech so that it’s easy to get started. He’s a fantastic writer and an even better family man. He’s a role model for me in the way he lives his life.”
That’s an honest introduction I gave of my friend Shawn on a retreat with other entrepreneurs. It’s 100% true and it allows Shawn to shine in the very best way. Now everyone wants to connect with him more deeply.
With a bit of practice and a sense of intention, you can be the reason your closest friends and colleagues see themselves in the most positive possible light.
What a gift.